Child Life Specialist, Brittany Luther, brings over twenty years of expertise to answer these questions in this emotionally powerful conversation. She explains how children naturally communicate their fears and process trauma through play—whether that’s with specialized medical toys from organizations like The Butterfly Pig or simply through creative exploration with everyday items.
Brittany introduces two transformative concepts parents can immediately implement: “wonder” and “pause.” By creating unhurried space to wonder with your child about their experiences and feelings, you open pathways for them to express themselves in their own time and way. This practice helps children work through medical trauma at their developmental level, restoring their sense of control and agency.
The discussion explores age-appropriate preparation strategies for medical procedures—from paper chain countdowns for preschoolers to detailed preparation plans for teenagers. Through the story of young Maren’s journey with her stoma care, we see how consistent, honest communication paired with simple distraction techniques gradually transformed a painful daily procedure into a moment of empowerment and connection.
Perhaps most touching is the validation for parents who’ve had to perform painful procedures on their children. The guilt is real, but as Brittany and host Ashley demonstrate, these moments can ultimately strengthen the parent-child bond when approached with honesty, compassion, and support. Seeking help from child life specialists isn’t a sign of failure—it’s a powerful way to expand your child’s circle of support and reclaim the joy of simply being their parent.
*After the episode recording, Brittany’s time was spent with a warm cup of tea and “Lemon Swirls” both in the comfort of her beautiful office and in the McGill Rose Garden for her quiet reflection and work to rest her voice!
Brittany Luther is a Certified Child Life Specialist with nearly 20 years of experience supporting children and families through medical challenges. With advanced training from Duke, Vanderbilt, and the Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia, she has worked in high-acuity settings including emergency care, oncology, and neurology. Now based in Charlotte, she combines part-time hospital work with her private practice, where she helps children, teens, and families navigate seasons of transition, diagnosis, and grief with compassion and hope.
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